Taylor Frankie Paul's Advice on Handling Online Hate: Why Allowing Yourself to Feel It Actually Makes You Stronger

Taylor Frankie Paul is proving that vulnerability can be your biggest strength. The 32-year-old Secret Lives of Mormon Wives star took to Instagram Stories on July 21 to share raw, honest advice about dealing with online hate and negativity, and what she said is sparking important conversations about mental health and resilience. In her message, Taylor emphasized that feeling hurt by hate isn’t weakness, it’s humanity. She encouraged people to allow themselves to cry and acknowledge pain, reminding them that negative comments from others reflect that person’s character, not theirs. This kind of directness is refreshing in an age where so many people try to present a perfect, unaffected version of themselves online.

What makes Taylor’s advice particularly powerful is her perspective on why hate exists in the first place. She pointed out that negativity and criticism actually indicate growth and success. If you don’t have haters, you’re probably not doing much of anything. The more your platform grows and your influence expands, the more noise comes with it. It’s not personal, it’s proportional. Taylor also shared something critical for anyone navigating public life or just dealing with everyday criticism: other people’s opinions, projections, and judgments are literally none of your business. That’s for them to work through, not for you to carry.

Taylor’s openness comes during a genuinely difficult period in her life. She’s managing custody battles involving three children with two exes, recently completed a voluntary stay at a rehab facility in early July, and has been navigating involvement from Utah’s Division of Child and Family Services. Despite all of this, she’s choosing to use her platform to help others process their own struggles with public judgment and negativity. Her message is clear: acknowledge what hurts, understand that hate doesn’t define you, and remember to show yourself the same grace you show to others. What’s one piece of criticism you’ve let go of recently that actually freed you up?