A TikTok creator known as @teaguzzles posted a video on October 7 breaking down three“reasonable boundaries”for friendships and relationships, and it just crossed one million views. The scenarios are painfully familiar: a date who confirms a Tuesday plan and then goes completely silent, a friend who only ever wants to hang out when drinking is involved, and someone who gets upset when you can’t give them a ride because you’re already booked.
Her advice is refreshingly drama-free. When someone ignores a confirmed plan, she says that tells you they don’t value your time, so you stop prioritizing them on your schedule. No confrontation required. For the friend who only surfaces when there’s a bar involved, she says keep the pattern in mind without forcing a decision about the friendship right now. And when you genuinely can’t help someone, like that Friday ride request, she argues no one has a right to be upset with you for being unavailable.
The comment section turned into a confessional, with people sharing how hard it is to say no without offering a reason. But the whole point of the video is that“I can’t”is enough. So we want to know: which of these three boundaries do you need to start using, and which one hit a little too close to home?
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