This TikToker's 5 Therapist Exercises Helped Her Go 125 Days Without Contacting Her Ex

A TikTok creator known as @lillys.healingera went viral after posting five therapist-recommended exercises that helped her move on from an ex, racking up more than 464,000 views and nearly 39,900 likes. The list includes writing a goodbye letter to a future that never happened, labeling the missing as withdrawal rather than love, listing the real costs of staying, writing the advice you’d give your best friend, and making a plan for each stage of grief. She also used the no-contact app Breakfree and reached 125 days without contacting her ex.

What made the post stick was how specific the tasks were. Instead of the classic“just give it time,”the framework treats a breakup like something you work through in stages, with checkpoints and honest self-talk. Commenters flooded in praising the tips as a free alternative to therapy, and that reaction makes sense when professional help isn’t affordable or accessible for everyone.

One note of caution: the Daily Dot could not verify the therapist’s existence or credentials, so these exercises are a starting point rather than medical advice. Still, the core idea holds up. Naming what you’re feeling is more useful than pretending it’s fine. Which of the five would be hardest for you to actually sit down and do?