High school popularity might seem like a puzzle wrapped in social dynamics, but new research sheds light on a simple truth: the key to being liked lies in how much you like others. Communications expert Vanessa Van Edwards recently provided insights that may change the way we think about social interactions. According to her, the more affection you express towards people, the more likely they are to return the sentiment. That’s right—being a“first liker”can set you on the path to popularity.
Think of it like a warm-up routine for your social life. If you find yourself walking down the hallway, greeting classmates, or inviting others to join you, you may very well be building your own popularity empire. This research underscores the reciprocity of liking, which suggests that when someone shows kindness, it often leads to mutual affection. However, there’s a twist; people with low self-esteem sometimes struggle with this concept, often not reciprocating affection because it doesn’t sit well with how they view themselves.
Van Edwards encourages us all to adopt the mantra of liking more decisively. After all, self-love is the foundation for liking others, and this opens up opportunities for genuine friendships. So, the next time you see someone sitting alone, maybe reach out and say hello. You might just discover that opening those lines of connection is the first step to winning friends—and perhaps even influencing people!
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