Wedding etiquette debates are back, and this one has layers. TikTok creator Kara says a groomsman told her on the morning of her wedding that he wouldn’t be attending, choosing instead to go to his girlfriend’s college graduation. The wedding was originally scheduled for December 2020 but got pushed to May 2021 because of COVID, and Kara’s husband had been diagnosed with a brain tumor just days earlier. The groomsman, traveling from Georgia, had said he was having trouble finding gas, so the couple thought he was on his way.
What makes the story go viral isn’t the choice itself, it’s the timing. Kara pointed out that hearing the news three months earlier would have been far less painful than hearing it the day of. The groomsman didn’t know about the tumor diagnosis, and Kara said her husband was actually more understanding than she was.
Then there’s the closing twist: the groomsman eventually married the girlfriend he skipped the wedding for. So the graduation trip turned into a wedding of their own, and the group chat plot thickens.
Whose side are you on? Would you have handled it differently? Drop your take in the comments.
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